I’m blogging to tell my story. Click here to learn why. And then, please read on.

This story began in September of 2012.  My husband, Ben, and I found out that we were expecting a baby; we were so excited and nervous and ready all at the same time.  We had just celebrated our one-year anniversary and Ben’s 30th birthday.  The timing seemed right.  A few weeks passed, I experienced what I thought was normal morning sickness, and we were preparing for a visit to the ultrasound machine to see some actual proof of our little baby’s existence.

One day in October changed everything.  I woke up in the wee hours one morning and saw blood when I went to the toilet.  Ben came to my side and we waited a while before calling my mom and our doctor.  The doctor’s office gave me an appointment and my mom arrived immediately with a box of the biggest sanitary pads I’ve ever seen.  I’m so thankful that she did, because I bled for a long time thereafter.

At our appointment on that sad day, the doctor discovered something irregular in my uterus.  After looking at the ultrasound images and getting results from my blood work, he said he thought I was experiencing something called a Molar Pregnancy.  A Molar pregnancy is rare, he said.  One can diagnose a Molar Pregnancy when a few factors are present, though.  When a Molar Pregnancy is happening, he told me the uterus expands at an expedited rate, the Beta HCG hormone is at an extremely elevated level, and there may or may not be a fetus forming in the uterus.  If there is a fetus, it will probably not survive.  If there is no fetus, there would likely be a cluster of grape-like cysts growing as if they were imitating the fetus.  Which is exactly what he saw in my ultrasound photos.  I had a cluster of grape-like cysts growing in my uterus instead of a fetus.  He noted that my uterus was growing rapidly and that my Beta HCG hormone was way above where it should be: it was at 330,000.

My doctor also mentioned something else: the mole/molar/mass/tumor/cluster part of this pregnancy needs to be removed completely.  In some cases, this mole/molar/tumor/cluster can turn into a cancer.  He scheduled me for surgery before I could contemplate anything more.  Ben and I began looking frantically for answers as to why this happened, what would happen next.  We needed to know how to explain such a foreign thing.  We still don’t know how to explain it well, so that’s why I’m writing this blog.

Here are two websites from PubMedHealth and WebMD that have been helpful to me:

I promise, you’d rather read these websites than read my attempts at being scientific.  But don’t feel like you must read these websites; they are simply an aid to me in explaining the facts.  



I was able to find an online support group for women in my shoes, though there aren’t many of us.  I’m amazed how much strangers can help strangers!  Ben and I have tried to be strong together; we find our strength in God.  He is wonderful and good, and He will heal me as we journey on.  We have been blessed by Him through our amazing family, our supportive friends, and really compassionate medical personnel.

I hope you will enjoy reading about what has happened since that day at the doctor’s office in October 2012.  A lot has happened.  Our lives have changed…for the better.



24 thoughts on “I’m blogging to tell my story. Click here to learn why. And then, please read on.

  1. Nancy Pennington January 30, 2013 at 4:32 pm Reply

    Thank you, dear Frances, for allowing your heart to speak to us in this journey. Your life is reminding me of foundational principles and allegiances that need to be strengthened in my
    life. Thank you. Love you always and standing with you in prayer and faith.

  2. Tonja Bolding January 30, 2013 at 10:44 pm Reply

    Oh Frances! I had no idea. You are so brave and selfless to share your personal story with others. You have such a wonderful gift of words. You will probably never know how many lives you will touch with your blog. My prayers are with you and your family. God bless you all!!!

  3. Kate Messersmith January 31, 2013 at 1:52 am Reply

    Frances, Bradyn just told us yesterday about Coach Iverson shaving his head to support his wife who has cancer. Bryan and I had no idea. You are in our prayers at the Messersmith house!

  4. Charlene Simon January 31, 2013 at 3:51 am Reply

    Romans 8:18, For I consider the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.

    I’m here for you. You are such a special person, my friend. You and Ben are in our prayers.

  5. darby logan January 31, 2013 at 4:07 am Reply

    Frances and Ben, I am so inspired by your courage and strength during this time in your lives. You are showing us all what true faith in God can be. This is a great testimony. Know that you and your family are in my prayers and most importantly, God has this! Love, Darby Logan

  6. Dani Smith January 31, 2013 at 4:48 am Reply


    Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are such an inspiring lady! I am thinking and praying for you every single day until you beat this thing.

    Love in Christ,
    Dani Smith

  7. Christy Campbell January 31, 2013 at 8:28 pm Reply

    I admire your strength in this situation. Keep close with God, your family, and your supporters. I am praying for His healing hand to cure you. Keep us updated!

  8. Amy Lanterman January 31, 2013 at 11:36 pm Reply

    Frances, Haley called me today…. and I have been reading your blog every moment that I can find peace and quiet at work. You are so very brave and your sense of humor is lovely. I wish that I could be there to provide comforting hands and not just heartfelt prayers from a distance. I am certain that your family and friends are providing you with much love, please know that your friends in Colorado love you too.
    Frances, you would be so proud of our girl “Haley” she is thriving in college and an amazing young woman. You played a huge role in her growth and maturity. You were her mentor and she continues to admire you. With your words, you inspire all of us. Thank you for sharing your story and please let us know if there is anything that we can do for you. Love, Amy and Rob Lanterman
    By the way….. I love your head dresses, you look beautiful!

  9. Janet porter February 1, 2013 at 1:09 am Reply

    Praying for God’s strength & peace & Presence. Lots of people are praying for you.

  10. Kathy Sutton February 3, 2013 at 11:28 pm Reply

    Frances, I pray for your recovery & God’s intervention in your health. I pray for your faith to deal with all that’s ahead. You are such a special young lady & will always have a place in my heart. Thoughts, love & prayers to you & Ben.
    Kathy Sutton

  11. Katie Tines Petts February 14, 2013 at 6:06 pm Reply

    Frances, hannah is a dear friend of mine from ORU, i saw this link on her FB, first to say you are amazingly strong and an inspiration to anyone who reads this. i have no idea what it is to go through a life altering time like this as you are. i did want to say thank you for posting the poem about the pain of your miscarriage, it brought instant tears to my eyes as i have too experienced that. your poem was beautiful to read. please know we will be thinking of you and praying for you on this journey.

  12. Jennifer Lefevre February 19, 2013 at 9:31 pm Reply

    Dearest Frances,
    I am in shock reading your story. I finally got on Facebook today after a long absence (no time), and saw a link on Alisha Hogarth’s page. ‘My’ Fire Chief is also battling cancer right now, incidentally- his name is Matt Simpson-I helped his wife clean their house yesterday to keep the germs away during his treatment. Your name came up in BSF the other night, and we all said how wonderful you are, but no one mentioned what is happening to you! I admire you and Ben for turning to God and staying so positive. I have taken a class on healing prayer, and I will begin to pray for you tonight. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you- anything at all. All my love,

  13. Laura Vaughan February 20, 2013 at 2:32 am Reply

    Dear Frances and Ben,
    I do not have the words to express how my heart hurts for you both. Please know I will continue to pray for your healing. May God’s love encircle you and hold you while giving you comfort.

  14. kathy ruthrauff February 21, 2013 at 10:52 pm Reply

    Frances and Ben i did not know about what you are going through and amazed at your strengh. I do know your mom and Stuart and they are wondetful people from whom you can draw much strength. I have subbed for Ben and know he too is a source of strength. The fact that Ben functions at school when he has so much to worry about shows the depth of his character. You are two wonderful young people, loved by many Our combined thoughts and prayers are being sent up and will help you get through.

  15. Kathey Roberts February 23, 2013 at 3:47 am Reply

    Francis and Ben,
    I am following your journey as you fight this battle. Francis you are such a special young woman. You are a friend and inspiration to all. We will lift you up with our prayers. Kathey Roberts

  16. julia groff February 27, 2013 at 5:30 am Reply

    I am praying for you Frances. Julie

  17. Heather Tarpley March 1, 2013 at 1:24 am Reply


    Jenni Deacon shared your story with the Arkansas AATF officers this past Saturday. We prayed for you and all felt humbled by the privilege of being your friends and sisters in Christ. It is our prayer that you would know God’s goodness and presence and sovereignty in a personal and tangible way as you take this journey that nobody would ever sign up for. Consider yourself hugged, Frances, as I continue to call out your name to our Daddy.


  18. Lori Moe March 4, 2013 at 1:34 am Reply

    Hi Frances and Ben, Aunt Mary has been keeping up posted with what has been happening and let us know about your Blog. You are a source of inspiration, I admire your courage and strong faith. You and Ben are in our prayers. Lori

  19. Kara Rogers March 13, 2013 at 12:59 am Reply

    Frances and Ben, we are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. Sending hugs… Kara, Mark, Jake, Grace and Luke

  20. cindy roemerman wilson March 13, 2013 at 4:50 pm Reply

    my husband ronny and i are praying for you and your family during this difficult time. stuart told me about your story at the dentist office. i don’t think you remember me. i met you when you were just 13 @ your nana, laura’s house and have watched you grow into a beautiful woman though pics at stu’s office. so many people love you and are praying for you and you sharing your story is brave and helps many who may not have enough support.
    i wish we could help take away some of your pain and sickness from the treatments.
    sincerely, cindy roemerman wilson

  21. Janis Polychron March 21, 2013 at 11:31 pm Reply

    I have followed your story through your friends and family. I too think pope Francis was a great sign. You are so strong ,so positive and an inspiration to us all. I love you, Frances, and Ben, and keep you both I’m my prayers daily. Chris and I have been out of the country,France , but you were never out of my mind. Love to all

  22. Gary Kandlbinder April 10, 2013 at 11:20 am Reply

    Frances, as Stacey and I read this morning, I find myself not only in awe of your courage and faith, but turning my own self back to God in thanksgiving. You remind me of thoughts long forgotten in my life. I can’t begin to tell you what a blessing you are to others in the way you demonstrate the greatest commandment, “Love The Lord God with all your heart”. I am also reminded in looking at Stu’s pictures of him calling me one day to place me in the “survivors” category which, if I know Stu, he has placed you in as well.
    We continue to keep you, Ben and the whole family in our hearts and prayers. Thank you for being the shining light you are! God Bless!

  23. Becky Romane April 16, 2013 at 6:02 pm Reply

    Your story is so inspiring, Thanks for sharing it. I had never heard of this website. It is your God mother Shirley that told me to look it up.I will continue to follow it . Friends in Christ ,Becky

  24. David Young April 24, 2013 at 7:46 pm Reply

    Chere Frances, Je viens d’appredre que vous avez eu un cancer, Stuart me l’a dit ce matin, et je veux que vous sachiez que je prie pour vous et votre famille. S’il y a quelque chose que je peux faire pour vous, n’hesitez pas de me le dire, des devoirs a noter, si vous voulez un remplacement, n’importe quoi. Je regrette que je n’aie pas su plutot de votre maladie, mais au meme temps je suis tellement content que vous en etes sortie! Bon Courage,
    Je vous embrasse, M. Young

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